Tuesday, June 19, 2018

Abilene Personals Advice

Abilene Personals Advice, in the beginning of your relationship online!

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My advice - take it slow. Don't think of this situation as a relationship yet because it really isn't. You are at the beginning stages as you say, but don't really know who or what you are involving yourself with. You have absolutely NO type of commitment with this chap either.

You are there and he is where ever he is. Both of you could be dating others, ya know? You are not around him enough to get a clear idea of who he is or what he is all about. And its very easy (and common) for women to fill their heads with visions of a man's perfection when there is we little solid information.

Not only that I sense that you are trying to FORCE a situation to become something you want ("making it work") when you don't know who this guy is yet! Might your anxiousness about having a relationship be rushing towards solidifying and "nailing down" something with someone you have no real knowledge of? Sounds to me like you are trying to put the cart before the horse here.

Please slow down and spend time getting to know him as a man and as a person before you even begin to THINK about a future. When you talk or write to him, have something tangible and solid to ask him. Hit him with questions about his childhood, his future, his dreams and plans.

Where is he spiritually? Does he believe in angels? What does he believe happens after we die? Ask him about his first date, first car, first girlfriend, first day of school, etc. What are his political and social views - on things like welfare reform, immigration, abortion, racism.

Ask him how he was as a little boy, as a teen. Ask him which people he felt in his life were the most influential and helped to form him into the man he is today. Ask him about his family life and his current relationships with parents and siblings. Talk about things that bother him as well as things he enjoys (work, hobbies, movies, music and other interests).

What does he feel about money and dependency, relationships and commitment? What is he looking for online and in a woman? Are you two looking for the same things? GET INTO HIS HEAD AND STAY THERE.

You may decide that though he is a nice guy, he is too closed emotionally, non-communicative, impossible to get to know, and someone with whom you experience more frustration than pleasure.

You may discover that you want closeness, intimacy and commitment while he just wants freedom and a casual relationship with someone (or a couple of someone's) to sleep with every now and then to relieve his sexual tensions.

He may be delighted with your questions, find your interest flattering and your questions intriguing. He could be motivated to type more emails as he shares himself with a woman that really wants to know him.

On the flip side, he may think you are being nosy and become irritated... feeling that you are asking too many questions. That would mean that he is not as interested in moving forward as you are and that he doesn't know how to tell you and that is the reason for his lack of interest in being in closer and more frequent communication.

For this to really turn into something, you should be fully informed of who and what he is so that any future relationship is not based on sex, not based on fleeting physical attraction, and not based on lonely fantasies about him that you create in your own mind. A strong solid relationship is built on a strong and solid foundation of REAL friendship and true knowledge of a man's heart, mind and soul.

Keep that in mind as you move forward in this or any other relationship.

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